these are the eyes of disarray
sharing dangerous hobbies with children
Published on January 9, 2008 By little-whip In Home & Family
I watched my first episode of 'The Twister Sisters' last night. For those of you unfamiliar with the program, it follows a pair of sisters, professional storm-chasers, on their escapades. Big Yawn. For added 'excitement' these two, for a fee, will allow 'civilians' (ie: people who have no idea what they're doing but for some reason or another have a burning desire to see a tornado, up close and personal) to accompany them in search of thrills, chills, and who knows...maybe even a real live death, their own or someone else's.

Another big yawn. Whatever floats your boat, people. I think it's lunacy, myself, because I've seen a twister or two in my lifetime, 'up close and personal', and I hope I never see one again. I also couldn't help hoping that the fickle finger of a twisted god one day runs one of these twisters straight up the ass of these hobbyists. It's one thing to chase storms for the sake of science, or weather prediction, but to do it just for fun is, in my opinion, sick and twisted.

People die in these storms, and I see the hobby storm chaser kinda like a 'race fan' whose only reason for attending the race is in hopes of seeing some horrific, fiery crash. (and getting a perfect shot of it.) How would you like to lose a family member in one of these storms, only to see the footage of it replayed again and again and again on television, no doubt handsomely lining the pockets of the storm-chaser who filmed it, not to mention our friendly commerical sponsors trying to sell us everything from stank-twat spray to acne cures between takes?

Gah.

One pair of chasers, who went out on their own, really disturbed me though, a man and his ten year old son. You could tell that this poor kid was terrified, the father seemed oblivious to his terror, and it seemed so WRONG that I could scarcely believe my eyes. The man may very well have advanced training and good equipment, but the fact remains that tornadoes are unpredictable, and anyone who would deliberately place a young child that close to such a devastating, capricious, and deadly storm is not fit to parent that child. Even if the kid LOVED it I can see no justification for doing so, and this kid didn't seem to be having a good time at all. He seemed frightened to death, and afraid to let his dad SEE just how scared he was....gotta be a big boy for daddy, right?

Doesn't this kid have a mom? What does SHE think about his involvement? How about his grandparents? The man even bragged about the 'quality time' he and his son get to share while they are spending hours on the road in pursuit of danger, but I can sure think of safer ways to spend time with your children...engaged in activities that don't terrify and traumatize them.

I'm not a parent, so maybe I'm wrong, that's why I'm posting this. Tell me, dear readers, what do you think of parents who enjoy dangerous hobbys and allow their young children to participate as well? Is it ok to take a ten year old mountain-climbing? Alligator hunting? Underwater caving? Storm-chasing?

Or do you think it's a form of child endangerment?

Comments
on Jan 09, 2008
I think it's stupid to put your kids in a dangerous situation but honestly, I think the woman who was letting her teeny tiny boy stand and jump in the cart at Target is just as culpable.  Of course, no one was filming her at the time which makes the storm chasing parent a little more stupid. 
on Jan 09, 2008

When I took my kids climbing, I got the same accusations.  When I talked about how much fun it will be when my teenagers can go skydiving with my, I got the same accusations.  Heck, when I took my kids rapelling, I got the same accusations.

Do I think this guy is showing good judgement or even good parenting... no.  Would I take my kids on such an "adventure"... no (especially if I saw my kid wasn't considering it an "adventure").

Do I think it is child abuse... no.

On the other hand, if something does happen to the kid, the father should be held fully responsible. 

I support parents rights, what I detest is the parents that insist on exercising their rights, but refuse to take any of the responsibilities that go with their choices.

 

on Jan 09, 2008
Children and really big tornadoes... Not a combination I would ordinarily consider. And definitely up there in the 'How stupid am I' category. Not being a parent, though, I can't really comment on whether it is child abuse, in this instance.
on Jan 10, 2008
Is it ok to take a ten year old mountain-climbing? Alligator hunting? Underwater caving? Storm-chasing?

NO.

But parents do involve their kids in the hobbies of choice (See Ted, above) and that is pretty much their business. Old Croc Hunter took that little girl out in boats on croc, shark, pirahana, snake, etc-infested waters and the world (minus one BFD and one MamaCharlie) sighed and said, "now ain't that sweet...". You cannot protect children from every single hurt in the world...but you don't have to dangle them off the balcony or over the shark tank, either. Some of the hobbies of choice are dangerous...that is why the most common last words of the American Redneck are. " Hey, y'all...watch this !!"
on Jan 10, 2008
I am very protective over my babies. I would be getting them the hell away from anything so destructive, dangerous, and unpredictable as a tornado.

Tornado chasing to me is very different than something like mountain climbing. You cannot anticipate a tornado's movements. You cannot, even in the best of situations, be sure that you are safe when you are in the area of a tornado.

Even riding roller coasters, or something fairly competently assumed as safe, when a child is terrified of it, is really cruel and unnecessary. Dad, find something you can do with your child that HE ENJOYS!
on Jan 11, 2008
Allowing him to do it and forcing him are two different things. It would be like if a parent forced a kid to ski down a mountain. It's dangerous but if the kid and parent both want to do it, it's different than the parent forcing the kid to do it unwillingly.

I certainly wouldn't push my kid to do anything he was afraid to do if it was something dangerous. If it wasn't dangerous and the kid was just being a wussy, that might be different

(BTW LW, I think I'll have to add "stanktwat spray" to my vocab )
on Jan 11, 2008
I have no idea whether he was 'forced' to participate or not, but I got the feeling he was only game for it because, like most young boys, he wants to please his father, and spend time with him. If all of dad's spare time is spent chasing storms, (as he readily admitted, stating that they are often on the road for days, if not weeks at a time) is it any wonder the kid wants to tag along?

Still, he seemed scared to death, especially after one storm that daddy insisted on chasing even after nightfall, when the saner stormchasers had packed it in for the night in the interest of safety.